All signs point to GIRL. Guy and Cooper are going to be even more outnumbered come August. Le guppy makes our team count BOYS 2, GIRLS 4. I’ve been sitting on this news since Monday, not sure how exactly I wanted to announce it. We are excited, to know that le guppy is a girl, a daughter. And so the questioning begins. How do we raise a girl who knows her worth and respects herself in a world that is still learning to socially and legally allot these things to women? How do I teach my daughter that being a girl is not a disadvantage and that she is not a member of the weaker sex? How do I prove to her that its okay to be who she is no matter who that is? How do I encourage her to love what she loves,to follow her heart, to dream big, to discover herself instead of letting other people tell her who she should be? How will I find the time to learn to properly use my DSLR camera before she arrives?
There are so many societal pressures placed on both men and women. I think about how many nights I laid awake while the rest of the house was quiet wondering what it would take to make me like myself. What if I was skinny? What if I was prettier? What if I cared more about barbies than I did about baseball stats? I wonder sometimes if my brother ever questioned himself the way I did And I was lucky. I came from a family that was and still is proud to claim this loud-mouth tomboy as their own.
To my daughter,
I love you and I can’t wait to meet you. Never let anyone tell you that you can’t do something because you are a girl because its not true. Right now I can feel you moving around, making sense of your little world and I can’t wait to help you discover the outside world once you arrive. I am excited to learn who you are. And one more thing. A very brilliant woman, Eleanor Roosevelt, once said “Well behaved women seldom make history” and she was right. Being ladylike is often overrated. Be you.